If they commit to something and then inevitably get confronted by fear …. they’ll often want to give up and get out of coaching. They start to see the coaching as the problem, and can get frustrated with the coach and want out.
That’s normal. And we invite it.
It’s important to have the mindset that whatever problems show up within the coaching are welcomed. Embraced. Because they’re exactly the same patterns they’ll have outside of coaching. We want these problems to show up, so we can work with them. If we never trigger these patterns during the coaching relationship, we can’t work with them.
It’s also important to call this out at the beginning of the coaching relationship — in your first paid session, go over agreements with them, including the agreement to stay in the coaching relationship even when they want out (especially then!), and to bring any problems up with you so that you can discuss it. Call out in that agreement that it’s often the case that people will get confronted and want out.
Then … when your client comes to you with the problem they have with your coaching, see it as an opportunity:
In this way, the problem they have with your coaching can become an opportunity to distinguish their relationship to something that has long been a problem for them. Which is a huge gift!